First, What Exactly is a Relapse?
Contrary to popular belief, a relapse does not mean returning to the same drug addiction after a period of sobriety. Relapsing involves the return to the process of using any harmful coping behaviors while in recovery for addiction.
It may be surprising, but engaging in behaviors like excessive gambling, shopping, sex and/or porn watching, overeating, or even overworking can actually be as harmful as abusing illicit substances. Whatever the “drug” of choice, whether it be opioids, hallucinogens, alcohol, or self isolation, as long as you are veering away from your treatment plan, have stopped utilizing healthy strategies, or have been avoiding or ignoring problems, you are experiencing a relapse.
What Can I Do?
Relapses can be terrifying and overwhelming; but remember, you are only human, and humans make mistakes. You need to be forgiving to yourself during this extremely difficult time. Remind yourself that recovery is a process that can be long, arduous, painful, and unexpected, and may even feel impossible at times; however, there is always hope, you will get through this, and things will get easier.
A common piece of important advice is to first stop and realize that a relapse is just a temporary setback on your journey to recovery and sobriety. You may feel disappointed in yourself or like you let your loved ones down but wallowing in feeling shame or guilt will accomplish nothing. It is okay to reflect briefly and use your feelings to help motivate you but do not get stuck in negative thinking. Always try to find something positive and healthy you can focus on.
Another vital element of recovery is remaining proactive, and focusing on relapse prevention, even when you are feeling well. It is important to train your mind and body to get comfortable with using positive and healthy behavioral habits rather than destructive ones in order to cope with life situations. Like a mantra, repeat to yourself that you possess the strength to make it through, and eventually you will believe it.
As difficult as circumstances may become, there exists a plan to navigate them successfully. Remember that you are not alone, there are a myriad of resources and professionals available everywhere, and you CAN do this. Conduct research, explore mental health information, and never stop learning. Stay informed about current medical and COVID-19 information, and be sure to seek help if you feel like you need it. You can speak with a close friend or relative, consult a therapist, and you may find attending support groups especially helpful. If nothing seems to be helping, you should seek treatment again; but absolutely never give up on yourself.